THERAPY MYTHS – PART I
It is usually true, that most individuals who practice life coaching and/or therapy work started out needing it themselves. I vouch for this to be a fact. My journey in the world of self-improvement, NLP coaching and therapy began years ago purely based on necessity. I didn’t stumble upon it, wasn’t introduced to itby eager friends over a breezy afternoon, there was no bolt of lightning that struck me in a dream and told me this is what I am meant to do. No! There was no such magical initiation.
I was going through a rough phase in life; it was as if I had lost control of how I chose to live. I was remote controlled by my circumstances, lonely, low and lost in the maze of life…
Mental health challenges affect millions of people around the world. Unfortunately, misconceptions about therapy often discourage people from seeking help. They also contribute to the stigma surrounding mental health issues, and prevent people from learning more about or utilizing the services of trained professionals.Many people have a perception of therapy that doesn’t quite match up to reality. If you think therapy means lying on a couch with a box of tissues and paying top dollar to talk to someone who doesn’t quite get it, or that it’s like the reality TV shows where you are openly and publicly blamed and shamed as the host confronts you, please think again.
Therapy is not so. In order to expose the facts and spread awareness we will be addressing some of the most common myths over a series of articles based on debunking the misconceptions surrounding therapy. The truth will set you free.
MYTH: Therapy means I am weak, (less of a man/woman) mentally ill or crazy.
FACT:Is asking for help weak?
Think of these other scenarios. Are people “weak” when they pay for tuition classes to improve academically? What about when they are sick, maybe with a cough of a cold? Are they weak to see the GP? It is not a weakness to recognize that certain areas of our well-being are less than and we need professional help.
Researchers continue to find new links emphasizing the value of taking equal if not more care of mental health to ensure good physical health, often called the mind-body health connection. Emotional problems can show up as physical symptoms. And when we are physically ill over prolonged periods of time, we may as well develop emotional issues. Sadly, often having emotional or cognitive concerns is seen as a moral failing or character flaw. Not fixing your own problems is viewed as weak, so therapy tends to get stigmatized as a shaky solution. Here especially men are stereo typed. Men don’t cry. Men need to have it all figured out. Men and Therapy?! No way! That’s going against their grain. But it’s just the opposite. Seeking help for your problems (man or woman) means you’re taking action. Asking for help often requires more strength than passively staying stuck. Getting help is actually a sign of resourcefulness.
Most people that seek personal coaching and related therapy are “normal” people, people like you and me, suffering from very “normal,” everyday life stresses, anxiety and depression that we all face at some time or another. People go to therapy to cope with school/college,careers, relationships, disorders, stress, grief, to figure out who they are and learn to live the life they desire, live life to the fullest.And, sometimes people go to therapy to get an outside perspective on a difficult situation.Plus consider this; if therapy did not help significantly better lives, why would top athelethes, famous celebreties and successful executives make time for coaches,mentors and therapists?Today there is a vast pool of resources to choose from. Personal life coaching, business leadership coaching endeavors, time line therapy, hypnotherapy and breakthrough coachingare a few of the options which can be considered based on your personality type and mindset.
Bottom line, there’s no shame in wanting a better life.
And so one day, there I was, forcibly attending a family get-together.Enthusiastically as everybody smiled for a group picture, I reluctantly managed a feeble smile. A week later a copy of the picture was mailed to us. As I sat there looking at the person in the picture, I was stunned. Is that really ME? I couldn’t recognize what I had become. It was then that a small voice in my head said; “You are everything you choose to be.” I chose that day to salvage myself and reclaim my life. And I did! I learned and tried every new theory, therapy and home remedy that I was suggested. Committed to the journey of self-discovery and improvement, I left no stone unturned in this endeavor until today hereI am simplyasking you this;
Are you everything you choose to be?